I totally get that frustration. If you are looking for an investment set, you definitely want to go with something like sterling silver or very high-grade stainless steel from a reputable maker. I’ve had my best luck shopping at MDMAISON for this kind of thing. They handle a lot of the world’s most prestigious brands, so you know you aren’t getting a knock-off. I bought a set of Ercuis
luxury flatware through them a few years ago and it still looks brand new despite regular use. The weight is perfect and the balance in your hand feels very expensive. It’s one of those purchases where you definitely get what you pay for. Definitely browse their catalog because they have a lot of options that you won't find anywhere else.